Nigerian singer Charles Oputa, popularly known as Charly Boy, has said that he is grateful for the experience of having a gay or lesbian child.
The activist took to his Instagram to relate when his daughter, Dewy Oputa, came out and told him that she is a lesbian.
Read how he wrote below …
“Only for parents.
About 4 years ago, my last princess of the house called me from the United States, by her tone she was preparing me for whatever she was about to say to me, especially when she said to me: “Daddy, promise me that you will not be angry with me.” or give up on me “
I am close to my children and I love them to pieces. They are my friends. But I wasn’t really prepared for the “breaking news” my Princess Dewy had for me.
When my daughter told me that she is gay, lesbian, I experienced a variety of emotions during that phone conversation.
So many things went through my mind, one of them included self-blame (“Did I do something wrong?”) (“The child I thought I knew and loved no longer exists”), worry (“Will my child be discriminated against? against?) religious confusion (“Is my son condemned to spend eternity in hell?”) and stigma (“What will people think of my son? Of me?”).
However, I kept pinching myself to calm down because I didn’t want my baby to get away from me or for us to have a strained relationship. I loved my baby too much.
First I took a deep breath. And all I could say was “are you sure?”
I was hoping it was a joke, but it was happening in real time.
Even though he was unusually calm during that conversation, my mind wondered in all directions.
Months before this incident, I was lending my voice in support of LGBT rights in Nigeria.
It’s life playing tricks on me. Now that my daughter is gay, why am I disappointed? Am I a hypocrite? How do I handle this pump?
I faced many challenges in my life and I won, I was determined to win this too. All I want is love from my princess, happiness and success in her life, anything else is secondary. I told myself that I would get over this, and many months later I did.
In fact, now I look back and see that I am grateful for the experience of having a gay or lesbian child.
Nothing can come between me and my beautiful children. It is stupid to even think that having a gay child means that the parents have failed. That is pedestrian thinking.
I love my gay daughter oooo
I love you Dewy❤️❤️❤️?❤️?“