It’s always heartbreaking when you are putting everything into a relationship and the other person just isn’t that arsed, it’s a truly horrible feeling, knowing that you’re crushing’ on someone harder than they are on you but do you know what? Figuring that out and accepting it is a whole lot easier, healthier and better for you in the long run than flogging the D€ad horse that is your relationship.
We are different and have varied relationship expectations, so just because your bae is guilty of a few of these relationships signs, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are not into you it could be their personality that makes them not touchy-feely or romantic but if you’re consistently finding a lot of the signs listed below to be on spot then it is best to have a long hard think about whether the feelings you have are truly required.
“They seem unenthusiastic to hear from you (or are always preoccupied) when they do pick up and when you do speak, they either keep it short and sweet or don’t seem engaged in the conversation; maybe they’re happy to talk about themselves but switch off when you’re talking”.
“When they consistently take ages to reply to texts on a regular basis and offer no excuse or apology”.
“When you meet up it’s slightly awkward and almost cold when they greet you, your attempt at a passionate ‘hello kiss’ when you greet them is returned as a peck on the cheek”.
“Your PDA attempts are always met with a side swerve of the lips or hands, or they never initiate physical affection, although some people are just not into PDA so don’t rely on this too heavily”.
“The natural warmth and easy going vibe you put out when you hang out seems to be returned with a stilted and somewhat awkward attitude”.
“They do little to participate when you’re having s3x and it feels like you’re merely going through the motions; the obvious physical and emotional distance creates an overall lack of intimacy”.
“While you’re willing to be generous with your time, money and resources, they’re cold and stingy”.
“You show your partner off and include them in family and friend gatherings but they seem reluctant to include you and it feels like they’re keeping you at arm’s length”.
“When you express your feelings about them, it’s either returned with little to no enthusiasm, or awkwardness”.
“They don’t show much or any interest in you and your world, but you have all the time for them no matter whats going on in your life”.
“When it comes to special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries, you make an effort with the present buying and making them feel special but they make little or no effort and nothing about their attempts screams attention to detail”.
“Your gut instinct tells you they aren’t as into you but rather than raise the issue, you ignore the feeling because you’re afraid of what they might say or that you’ll lose them”.